Charlotte shares how her experience of foster care helped shaped her life.
“I had moved a few times before properly settling into a stable placement. This placement was at Alison’s home with her and her family. At first, I was nervous because I hated moving around. I also disliked having to try and get used to my new home and the new families in a short space of time.”
From Short-Term Respite to a Permanent Home
“When I first stayed with Alison, it was only supposed to be a Short Term Respite placement. However, the stay grew longer and longer. Eventually, Alison went to panel to become a full-time foster carer for me and one other lad. We would permanently stay until we turned 18.”
“To be frankly honest, I had mixed emotions as I quite enjoyed my last placement before that. However, at the same time, I was happy that I wouldn’t have to keep moving around. I fitted in very well with her and her sons. It felt like they thought of me as a little sister and one of the family.”
“I lived with Alison and her family for five years. Four of those were the happiest years. During the last year, I fell apart and the bond between me and the family wasn’t as great anymore. This was probably because I was transitioning into a young adult and wanting to do more things my own way. As a result, there were some disagreements during that time.”
“A prime example was that I would go ‘out out’ and not return home until the early hours the next day. Additionally, I’d still be intoxicated. It was that bad to the point where I had these weird mood swings. I didn’t understand them, so I started misbehaving. I hated that things went sour, but since I moved out, I have been in contact with them. We have been building the relationship back up and it’s all amazing.”
A Special Bond with My Foster Carer
“Alison has been my biggest support and we got on really well. Since I was the only girl in the house, I think it was nice company for her. We went out and did ‘girly’ things together.”
“Coming into foster care has taught me that tough times never last but tough people do, so you’ve just got to keep going and it will all get better. It won’t be easy, but with the support from foster carers and social workers, it will make it seem like a walk in the park! I have gone from a vulnerable teenager to an independent young adult living my best life.
“Once I turned 18, my placement became a Staying Put. This made me feel at ease knowing that I’m remaining somewhere where I’m comfortable for another year. It gave me a sense of stability in my life, which every young person would ever want. “
“I later decided to fly the nest and move in with my boyfriend. During this time, I had so much support from the foster care team. Words cannot describe that this was the most special and loving thing that has happened during my time in care. It made a difference to me because the sense of feeling unwanted and loneliness impact greatly on mental health. For someone to make you feel secure and worthy of life makes you think good things do happen.”
Life Lessons from Foster Care
“Coming into foster care has taught me that tough times never last but tough people do. So, you’ve just got to keep going and it will all get better. It won’t be easy, but with the support from foster carers and social workers, it will make it seem like a walk in the park! I have gone from a vulnerable teenager to an independent young adult living my best life.”
“I am hugely grateful for everyone in the foster care team. They support children and young adults like me, seeing a better future for us. Additionally, I appreciate the effort and time they all contribute into making sure my safety and wellbeing is the priority.”
“I am able to experience life to the fullest. You have opened all these amazing opportunities for me to experience that not every young person can while developing into adulthood. I have met some lovely people in my journey, and I hope they continue their good work and support.”
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*Names have been changed to protect identities
